Desire vs. Simping

We’ve all seen it before. There’s countless examples of men online calling hot girls “mid.” There’s also more harmful tropes like saying girls “hit the wall” by a certain age, which is especially odd as women are getting hotter and usually physically peak in their 30’s. This compulsion to “take women down a peg” is an expression of a deep fear of rejection.

All girls have what I call Love Batteries. When her Love Battery is low, she becomes miserable, aggressive and often destructive. When her Love Battery is fully charged, the best version of herself feels safe to come out. She will become more feminine, graceful, and sensual. She will return that love in magnitudes. Because now she’s all yours.

That being said — not all girls like their Love Batteries charged the same way or by just any man. There’s something to “love languages”, but these categories aren’t the same for everyone and there’s a lot of overlap. I’m not a fan of these relationships-by-numbers systems. But one thing is universal — no woman likes a simp.

From Do You Want Total Fuck:

The simp is a powerful meme because simps are very real. They exist, by the millions. The simp has no backbone, no constitution, no dick. He is a slave to women. The simp isn’t just a slave to one woman in particular; the simp is a slave to the possibility of feeling a woman’s warmth. The simp likely had a neglectful mother. The simp is yearning for the warmth he never received. The simp will burn any ounce of dignity he has in exchange for a crumb of female attention. The simp pays for OnlyFans. The simp will reply on women’s posts, compliment her publicly online. Embarrass himself. The simp will agree with anything a woman says because he’s just happy that a woman is begrudgingly acknowledging his existence. The simp will let a woman ruin his life, because he‘s petrified that he may never come into contact with a crumb of pussy ever again. For at last, through a long history of debasing himself, the simp finally felt the warmth of a woman, and there is no bottom to what he will do to possibly feel that again.

Simping is repulsive to her and anyone who sees it. Many men know this and would rather die before simping. But many take it to the extreme and will never let themselves even compliment a woman, let alone express genuine desire for her.

This avoidance makes sense. The feeling of sexual desire and romantic desire aren’t completely distinct and often overlap. The former is raw, demonic, and ruthless and the latter is soft, loving, and gentle. The soft feelings of romantic desire are, rightfully so, often mistaken for simping, and they very well might be — so many men will run away from expressing these feelings entirely. If you’re not sure, then it’s better to lean on the side of caution and hold back.

Extremes are easy. Having a binary view of the world, and yourself, is easy. Do this or that. I’m either this guy or that guy. On one extreme, you’re simping and debasing yourself. On the other, you’re being sexually and emotionally neglectful and even worse, you’re oppressing your most authentic self. The more difficult path is finding the middle ground, which is why so many men don’t pursue it.

Yes, “negging” girls can certainly work. It works particularly well on hot girls who are simped for on a regular basis. It works because negging stands out amongst a crowd of simps. “Most men grovel to their knees around me, but you’re making fun of me. That’s hot.” This is inherently attractive because the man is placing himself above her and is signaling she can’t get the best of him, unlike most men who she could wield as slaves if she wanted to. But this attraction is temporary. She might even bang you! But she’ll never be wrapped around your finger. Women want nothing more than to feel genuinely desired by a man she respects, and that’s the only time her Love Battery is fully charged.

In this post I’m going to discuss this tightrope that most men aren’t willing to walk in order to express genuine desire without simping.