On Men Who Hate Women
The online right is giving the left exactly what they want.
I am the most hated account on “right wing” Twitter because I’m shameless about my attraction to beautiful women. I find women fascinating, frustrating, complicated, fun creatures. Women are malleable. They’re seducible, highly susceptible to charm, humor and flattery. Women aren’t in a fixed state. I also, of course, love having sex, and am fully comfortable with my sex drive. This upsets a lot of men.
I like talking to women. Conversations with women are often more free-flowing than those with men. In male-to-male dialogue, men are often prevented by layers of ego from expressing how they truly feel about things. This comes from a deeply-rooted need to signal they’re solid and dependable during war. Typically this continues until there’s enough trust between them where they can open up more. This is a good thing, but it’s not always the case. Modern men are often more feminine than women now. Modern men play status games and become uncomfortable if you don’t hold the correct opinions, pre-approved either by the state or their favorite right wing figures. These are all low-T qualities — I find these games boring. Women are raw in their honesty, if not in words then in their eyes and body language. And flirting is fun. Sometimes I’d just rather talk to women.
I grew up during a time men were supposed to be attracted to hot women, and unashamed of it. If you weren’t attracted to women, other men assumed you were gay, and would let you know. On top of that, attracting women was a signal of competence, because women are attracted to men who other men respect. This is neither a recent nor a strictly human phenomenon, this is found across every living organism, deeply rooted in the absolute basics of biology.
However, much of the online right gives the left exactly what they want by acting out the leftist “incel” fantasy, a term we’ve all heard before. Let’s check out a definition by the most normie of news sources, CNN:
It wouldn’t take very long to find men on the online right who live by CNN’s exact description. They’re fully aware of how the left defines the term, and given they choose to uphold the left’s portrayal, I assume that’s what they want, so I’m referring to them as incels throughout the rest of this post.
Hearing Out The Incels
I’m not going to pretend there aren’t reasons for men to be angry with their place in the world in 2023, particularly white men. Here are a few reasons why I’m not entirely unsympathetic:
Economic Conditions
One of the harsher realities about women is that they want men to provide for them. I think of the world not as it is now, but how as it has been for hundreds of thousands of years from an evolutionary perspective, so I think their expectations make sense. It wasn’t particularly long ago when men had to be able to hunt animals, bring back those dead animals for a woman and her children, and protect them from enemy tribes. Women may not need men to hunt for them anymore, but they need men to protect them from other tribes, particularly if they live in a city with a lot of black people. These biological preferences are not entirely “up to date”, but genetic mutations take tens of thousands of years to adapt to new environments. Regardless of the 19th amendment and the fact that it’s normal for a woman to work now, they still find men who can provide more attractive than men who cannot. Men who earn a lot of money are typically very competent, at least at what they do. That’s just the way it is.
The average net worth of a man under 35 in America in 2023 is not looking good, and $76K is going to run out quickly. And this is of course relative to location. If you live in a major city and only have $76K to your name, you’re essentially poor.
Even if you’re in the top 1% for your age, less than $1M to your name is still not much, considering housing prices and rising inflation. It’s not going to last very long, you’re still stuck in the 4HL.
Less than 100 years ago, it was possible for a man to work a full-time job and buy a house with his income alone. Oftentimes a man could afford a house in his early 20’s. In that scenario, he’s setting up the infrastructure to support a wife and children. That is no longer the case. If a man doesn’t have much money to his name, it’s difficult to take a woman on dates, go on vacations together, buy a home, put children into a good school, and raise a family long-term. This is understandably blackpilling, I’ve written about what this does to men.
Women Have Changed
Women in America tend to have a chip on their shoulder for a variety of reasons. Many of them were indoctrinated since they were very young that they don’t need men, and that men, particularly white men, are the cause of the world’s problems. Conversing with a woman who brings her negative demeanor towards men is not particularly pleasant. It’s understandable that men don’t want that kind of unnecessary hostility.
Women also are not as conservative sexually as they used to be. I’ve gone quite into detail on this and I don’t like to repeat myself, so you can read my thoughts on the topic of bodycount here.
Dating Apps Are Superficial
I guess. I don’t really understand that point. I see dating apps as the world’s biggest bar where you get to kick out the people you’re unattracted to with a swipe. But if you’re a mega romantic and prefer to only talk to women in person, then sure, I extend my heart out to that.
There is, however, a skill to dating apps. Men need to have text game. You don’t just swipe right and teleport to a bar where you’re sitting next to the hot girl you swiped right on and she’s asking you to fuck her in the bathroom. Hundreds of men are messaging her — you need to stand out. You need attractive pictures in your profile, you need a funny, alluring bio. You need to know how to start a conversation without coming off cringe or creepy, you need to know how to pull the trigger and ask them out on a date, keep them interested until the date actually happens. Women get bored easily. Being successful on dating apps isn’t easy. It requires practice, and like anything that requires practice, it means you fail, a lot. That isn’t exactly an attractive offer.
‘The Longhouse’
Zoomer men are right to look up to their elders and feel deeply blackpilled. I’ve written about this in detail, but men are pathetic now. Many Millennial & Gen X men find themselves in relationships or marriages where they aren’t happy, where women treat them like waste — they’re shells of the men they once were. Oftentimes these men get henpecked, sometimes in public. They aren’t the patriarch of their home, they rarely see their friends. They have no power. They have to “ask the Mrs.” to get a few drinks with their buddies. Zoomer men are right to be blackpilled by this, those men are shameful.
Divorce law is also notoriously harsh towards men. Women often take men for everything they have post-divorce. Divorce involves tremendous lawyers’ fees, excruciating amounts of time dedicated to the details of his marriage and sexual life, and sometimes even the requirement to financially support the new guy she’s fucking. Signing up for a modern marriage, from the perspective of an unexperienced Zoomer, is indeed, not particularly appealing.
However, given how online the Zoomer is, they get blackpilled easily. Oftentimes their opinions are rooted in memes rather than life experience. In this post I’m going to discuss why Zoomers should be less blackpilled about women.
Fascists Relationship With Women (The Crowd)
Many men on the online right are followers of my friend Bronze Age Pervert. Many of them claim to have read his infamous book, Bronze Age Mindset. I’ll be honest, based on their reactions to women, sometimes I wonder how many of them actually did. Anyone I know who actually read Bronze Age Mindset comes away with something different, it’s a book that makes men feel a wide range of emotions. I’ve read it multiple times for this reason, there’s a lot in there. But I can’t help but wonder if many of his followers skipped over this line in particular:
A man of great charisma who can seduce the people with a wild spirit and break through the rule of pervasive bureaucracy-media complex may be our best hope for the immediate problem.
Forgive me if I’m misunderstanding the word “charisma” here, but when I think of a man with charisma, I don’t think of men who sit online and tweet about how women have cooties, find them icky, or throw hissy fits if men they admire actually talk to women or god forbid — have sex with them. What I’m saying is, the incel right, or what I prefer to call the Loser Right, is not charismatic, despite the high energy and funny Hitler memes. Being charismatic online but not charismatic in real life doesn’t count. They’re very likely bitter, and bitterness is not attractive. No one likes the angry guy at a party. If Twitter is a bar, then they’re the resentful guys in the corner making fun of the group of guys getting all the girls. They go home alone.
A lot of men on the online right also love the world’s most prolific womanizer, Donald Trump.
Donald Trump is a “man of great charisma” if there ever was one. Trump knows how to seduce the people, especially women. Trump understands that “the crowd is a woman.”
For one man in America to manifest the phenomena of the MAGA Moms, women who would leave their husbands at Donald Trumps’s command, is extremely potent. Why do women love Trump? First and foremost, Trump is funny. Trump knows how to have fun. Trump doesn’t back down. Trump is instinctually smart, he isn’t a wordcel. Trump knows how to read people. Trump is an animal, he doesn’t pretend to be some stuffy status-seeking, brown-nosing bureaucrat. Trump is extremely confident in himself and oozes natural aristocracy and raw power. Trump is a winner.
Does Donald Trump hate women? No, Donald Trump loves women. Donald Trump attracted and married one of the most stunning and elegant women on the planet, Melania. And Melania just isn’t any woman, she’s Slavic. Slavic women have very high expectations of men, Trump lives up to them.
So what explains the contradiction here? There’s a type of guy who loves Bronze Age Pervert and Donald Trump but hates women, is repulsed by women, and hates the idea of women having anything to do with “our thing.” Imagine if Trump held his rallies but said “No Women Allowed.” What would his popularity rating look like? Has allowing women at his rallies made him any less powerful?
Where The Incel Right Is Wrong
A lot of men on the right say things like “life isn’t all about pussy” and “they want things greater in life.” Some of them say they want “true romance.” Many of them also say they want to die in a blaze of glory at an early age. Some of them say they’re okay with living their entire lives without women. I seriously wonder if those men in particular are closet homosexuals.
Life is certainly not all about pussy, despite what you may assume I think. For a man, life is about pushing the boundaries of your spirit as far as you possibly can, shattering barriers of who you thought you once were, to become the man you truly are. You must keep doing that again and again, until you die. There is no ‘final state’ for a man to achieve ‘peace.’
Does Donald Trump seem henpecked to you? Donald Trump, to me, seems like a man who is trying to live out his inborn aristocracy. Trump pursues many things for their own end because he feels entitled to them and only plays to win. He is constantly pushing, he gets the best deal he possibly can, he doesn’t settle. Donald Trump settles court cases with prostitutes he cheated on his wife with in public and doesn’t pretend otherwise. Melania Trump is not running the show, The Donald is. It’s easy to say “well, that’s because he’s rich!” Well, take a look at other men who have even more money than him. Does this man look like the patriarch of his own life?
Zoomers are so online they have little relationship to their own power or sexuality. They read books about powerful men and get very excited, but are they powerful themselves? And I don’t mean power in a political sense. I mean are they going to let anyone push them around? Are they willing to disagree with all of their friends if they truly believe they’re all wrong? Are they willing to pursue and seduce a woman they’re demonically attracted to? Are they willing to live their lives as authentically as possible regardless of what their woman, friends or family think? That is the true potency that men like Trump, and other “men of great charisma” embody, which brings about world-changing gravitas.
I suspect Zoomers look up at the skyscraper that is the modern longhouse and think it’s simply too big to take on. They see men in front of them living miserable lives, a financial-academic-entertainment complex stacked against them that wants them to become a castrated husband who supports his wife as she takes his children to be mutilated to become trans. On one hand, if you spend all your time online, of course that’s how you’re going to see the world. But the world is a very big place, and they don’t write articles about men who refuse to live this way. Being too online drastically disconnects men from themselves, and their potential as such.
The reality is that women are malleable, highly charm-able, and want to be with men respectable enough to follow. They hate the modern man, who is spiritually if not actually a cuck, and they oftentimes cheat on him out of of sheer resentment for not being the type of man they claim to hate. Women are complex animals.
Yes, the economic situation is not ideal, but men shouldn’t get memed into thinking women will only date extremely wealthy men. Some will, of course. There’s always gold-diggers. But men should put themselves in a position where they can afford to take a woman on dates and pay for her. They should, at the least, try to make as much money as possible, so they can support themselves and a family. If those are not viable options, then they should try to become a man who knows how to have fun, who knows how to make a woman laugh and knows how to make her comfortable around him. These are not things you read about to get good at — getting good at them requires putting yourself out there and trying. This applies to dating apps as well.
Some may say “Med — paying for women on dates, vacations? You’re buying into the female perspective.” My response to that is: dates and going on vacations are fun in themselves and reinvigorate a relationship. And yes, women like to be taken out and shown a good time. “Girls just wanna have fun” is true to its core. Are we supposed to pretend women don’t exist or they don’t have any needs? This does not mean you should live your life in service to those needs, but if you intend on being a man of the world, you should acknowledge them. Wanting to pursue “true romance” without acknowledging women’s needs is an oxymoron. Modern women are the way they are because those needs aren’t met, and in the current condition, those needs are a severe lack of passion within a world of very low-T men.
Modern marriage? Ignore what the Millenials and Gen X’ers are doing. A henpecked man allows himself to be henpecked. Men longhouse themselves. Another man’s path is not your path. You forge your own. I’ve gone into this at great length here.
The whitepill, from my perspective, is that women crave a man who is respectable and powerful enough for loyalty and respect. Men who feel entitled to be the patriarch without embodying what’s required first, are children — babies throwing a temper tantrum because they’re being told to eat their peas. Women aren’t as stupid as you think, they size up a man within milliseconds and can determine whether or not he is worthy enough to pass on his DNA. Understanding women as seducible creatures eager to follow a man of competence is either a blackpill or a whitepill, depending on whether you have the will to know what the unknown has in store for you. No one said this is supposed to be easy.
We Live in a society now where it’s more difficult to gain the necessary experience to become that man. For instance rather than having a tribe of elders to show you how to hunt and then going on the hunt now a man has to push through societal beatdown and turn away from the numbing cheap dopamine fixes of the modern day to find that mentor. If you are weak and lack hope and intent no mentor will take you on.
And then it’s just getting started, you must see in your modern day opportunity ways to learn the lessons of a man through experience. This is different things for different men. For me it was wanting more from life, doing what’s necessary to have a life that will attract beautiful women. For me it means becoming better at sales so I can earn more money, and developing more discipline so that I become more fit and and intelligent, and thus able to provide value to the world. And there’s a beauty to all of this, even if we no longer strive to be the ghengis khan type of man and am now a more modern version. The beauty is that I’m experiencing the satisfaction of progression of my self, one of the greatest joys, and providing value to humanity in doing so.
The great thing is once you really did the thing, your words have a power about them. I know I still have a long way to go, and I guess it never ends... but it’s great to read meds words, they have a power of a man who was broken and did the thing, and I hope my words can have the same power to them, it’s probably journey and struggle that I’m going through necessary to be the man and and father I hope to be one day.
I think the gayest point the Alpha Males have brought is basically the fact that paying for a woman is her using you. It is actually not, you feel good for taking care of her, she feels good for being taken care of, you kiss and then go ok being happy.
It’s an incredibly pussy behaviour to be a rational calculator of value for everything.
I think part of the incels is that they have been fed a sort of reality that is fake, but by them believing in it, it is becoming truer.
Thankfully the only good side of it is good men can more easily make an impression by just being normal and caring.