Ask Me Anything - Session 7

Quirk Chungus couples, high-quality bedding, not blackpilling on marriage

Med Gold

May 18, 2026

In Session 7 we discuss:

Paid subscribers can ask me anything by joining my chat or DMing me directly.

Enjoy 🤍

Quick Chungus Couples

Subscriber:

how do you define the categories of sex

you mentioned before there is great sex, life changing sex, or avg sex and couples making 4/10 whoopies

especially the higher forms of sex, i’m interested in knowing how they happen and how do you make it happen

Med:

Here is the Note they’re referring to for reference:

I don’t have a set of categories, but in the above post I’m talking about the difference between obligatory and passionate sex.

The millennial couple who resemble a pair of roommates more than lovers is best described in the below meme:

Quick Chungus couples aren’t particularly attractive, their personalities are either annoying or nonexistent, and they don’t inspire passion in anyone. As a result, they’re having obligatory sex. They’re having sex with each other’s bodies merely to scratch the itch of horniness. They’ve been told that’s what they’re supposed to do every few months. A lot of couples fall into this category.

In terms of how I think about passionate sex, I would read this if you haven’t already.

Do You Want Total Fuck

Med Gold

July 25, 2022

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Not Blackpilling on Marriage

Subscriber:

Hello Med,

I’ve got a question that might be deemed somewhat childish and idiotic, but I have been thinking about it for years, and I trust your intuition so I wanted to ask your opinion on it.

I’ve grown up in a family where my parents have constantly argued about the weight my mother has gained due to a neurological disease she got diagnosed with few years into her marriage. My father was never able to accommodate the fact that my mother was no longer going to be the fit hot woman that he desired. His resentment towards her grew and grew. Now they both hate each other.

This has always made me question marriage. Obviously, the woman’s physical attractiveness is significant to any man. That’s normal. But how significant should it be over the long run? And more importantly what happens when you both grow 20 years older and she is not that hot anymore? Do you give up on sex at that age and just enjoy the fruits of having a family? Do you take a mistress? How should a man approach the decay of his woman’s beauty over time?

Med:

I’m not old enough to say based on experience, but I can say with certainty that when you truly love someone, you become more attracted to them over time and the sex gets better and better the more you trust each other.

I’m sorry to hear about what happened to your parents. I understand why it would make you question marriage. However, that’s a rare case. Women should stay in shape for the sake of the relationship, and most women who truly love their husbands commit to this, but in this case it was out of her hands.

Physical attraction is always important, but I believe true love keeps attraction intact regardless of how you age. I don’t know what your parents relationship is like, but I assume there might have been other issues at play in addition to the weight gain. True love is rare.

High-Quality Bedding

Subscriber:

Hello Med, I really enjoyed reading the 2025 article about cooking and food, in which you mentioned that food and sleep are your top priorities. As such, you’ve recommended some kitchen tools - could you please recommend sleeping tools much in the same vein: bed, mattress, etc.? Thank you

Med:

I’m not an expert on good sleeping habits because I don’t sleep much. 6 hours in a night is rare for me. But I strongly believe in not skimping when it comes to bedding given you spend 1/3 of your life in bed.

I’ve been using these pillows for well over a decade. I’ve only had to replace them a few times. I stuff them 2-3x a year to make sure they don’t cave into themselves over time; that brand sells the material on the side. I like silk pillowcases. For sheets and duvet covers, I really like tencel material. A lot of different brands make high quality tencel. I use a Helix mattress. My bed feels like a cloud.

My Favorite Scents on Women

Subscriber:

Hey Med, if I’m remembering correctly, you’ve listed some colognes you like to wear some time ago. What are some of your favorite scents on a woman? Additionally, are there certain scent profiles (gourmands, aquatics, orientals, florals) that complement any of your categories of female attractiveness?

Med: I wanted to give a proper answer here, so I blind tested twenty different fragrances and ranked them 1-10. She popped my answers into ChatGPT to give a summary of my taste.

This person has a very specific modern niche-fragrance taste profile. Their preferences lean heavily toward:

Skin scents
Warm woody ambers
Airy musks
Soft gourmand sweetness
Minimalist “your skin but better” fragrances

She has a very distinct collection and asked me not to post my #1 favorite. But one of my favorites is Tom Ford’s Tobacco Vanille. I wear it myself but I also think it smells incredible on women.

Escaping Changing Consumer Habits

Subscriber:

Hey Med, a question for the next round of responses:

In your view, which, if any, parts of America are still free of ever-encroaching “changing consumer habits” and their nasty proponents?

Med:

Here is the Note they’re referring to for reference:

I like cities, which are full of America’s Little Rascals, so I’m not an expert in this area. But from what I’ve seen, wealthy all-white neighborhoods who vote overwhelmingly liberal tend to have the least amount of them. Go figure.

My Prediction on the Dating Landscape in 20 Years

Do you think the dating situation would change for young men in their early 20s 20 years from now?

20 years is a long time from now. A lot will change. But based on where things stand today — there will likely be a sharp cultural divide between people who went all-in on letting AI run their lives and those who incorporated into their lives in a balanced way.

The former group will be content with never thinking again, never experiencing physical reality again, and never needing to put effort into anything. They will be content with their UBI paychecks. A lot of Americans are already like this, as perfectly articulated by Drunk Wisconsin.

The people in the former category will die out. The people in the latter category will have an extremely easy time dating, and will probably reproduce at a significantly higher rate than most people do today.