AMA - Session 1

Answering any and all questions

Paid subscribers can ask me anything by joining my chat or by DMing me directly.

In Session 1 we discuss:

-Addiction to Toxic Sex
-Low Libido Gf
-Avoiding Temptations to Cheat
-Understanding The Foot Fetish
-Should Women Lovebomb Men?
-Should Underfucked Women be Institutionalized?
-Why Lesbians Aren’t Real
-Total COVID Revenge
-Relationship Topics That Should Be Discussed More
-Social Anxiety
-Ghosting
-Texting After 1st Date Sex
-Setting Boundaries with Insecure Girls
-Condoms vs. Pulling Out
-Age Gap Relationships
-Anecdotal Questions

Enjoy 🤍

Addiction to Toxic Sex

MindsetDan: Hi Med, love your content. Keep it up! Right now I’m stuck with a girl that I really like but don’t love. We’re in a situationship since 3,5 years and the sex is just mind boggling but I cannot see her being the mother of my children. One of the reasons is that I cannot trust her 100%. Also she’s Instagram addicted and seeks a lot of external validation. But the worst part is that every time we’re spending more time together, e.g. on a vacation for a week or living at each others homes for a couple of days, we’re always fighting. She makes drama about all kind of things and I cannnot wrap my head around it sometimes. Next day we’re having sex 7 times (a day!). Deep down I know that I should break up with her but I keep coming back because maybe I’m a sex addict and the sex with her is just rough and amazing that I never had before. I’m in the mid thirties, had 2 serious girlfriends before and slept with maybe 30 girls in total so I would say I have a bit of experience. But I feel like I should stop seeing her anyway to find my dream girl but I cannot get to pull the trigger. It’s just so damn hard because I do really like her. Any thoughts?

Med Gold: I know what you’re going through. You probably aren’t a sex addict. But you are addicted to sex with this specific girl because you are both filling a void for each other that few others can fill. Like all drugs, the high is euphoric but the comedown is miserable.

You have two options:

1. Keep having sex with her. You will have sex with each other until one of you gets tired of the hangovers or finds someone they’re willing to commit to. It will take several tries and likely won’t be pretty when it ends for good.

2. End it. This will be incredibly difficult.

This will feel just as hard as quitting a narcotic. You may not have physical withdrawals, but you absolutely will have spiritual, emotional, and sexual withdrawals. Avoiding this is what keeps people in toxic dynamics.

I suggest option #2. Tell her as fun as it is, this situation isn’t good or sustainable for either of you long-term. Then cut her off for good. Block her number, block her social media, and avoid all contact for at least 3 months. Then suffer. Don’t try to replace her. It will suck, but you will come out the other side a new and better man.

The longer you continue to have sex with her, the longer you are standing in your own way of finding your Dream Girl.