In Session 1 we discuss:
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Addiction to Toxic Sex
Subscriber: Hi Med, love your content. Keep it up! Right now I’m stuck with a girl that I really like but don’t love. We’re in a situationship since 3,5 years and the sex is just mind boggling but I cannot see her being the mother of my children. One of the reasons is that I cannot trust her 100%. Also she’s Instagram addicted and seeks a lot of external validation. But the worst part is that every time we’re spending more time together, e.g. on a vacation for a week or living at each others homes for a couple of days, we’re always fighting. She makes drama about all kind of things and I cannnot wrap my head around it sometimes. Next day we’re having sex 7 times (a day!). Deep down I know that I should break up with her but I keep coming back because maybe I’m a sex addict and the sex with her is just rough and amazing that I never had before. I’m in the mid thirties, had 2 serious girlfriends before and slept with maybe 30 girls in total so I would say I have a bit of experience. But I feel like I should stop seeing her anyway to find my dream girl but I cannot get to pull the trigger. It’s just so damn hard because I do really like her. Any thoughts?
Med: I know what you’re going through. You probably aren’t a sex addict. But you are addicted to sex with this specific girl because you are both filling a void for each other that few others can fill. Like all drugs, the high is euphoric but the comedown is miserable.
You have two options:
Keep having sex with her. You will have sex with each other until one of you gets tired of the hangovers or finds someone they’re willing to commit to. It will take several tries and likely won’t be pretty when it ends for good.
End it. This will be incredibly difficult.
This will feel just as hard as quitting a narcotic. You may not have physical withdrawals, but you absolutely will have spiritual, emotional, and sexual withdrawals. Avoiding this is what keeps people in toxic dynamics.
I suggest option #2. Tell her as fun as it is, this situation isn’t good or sustainable for either of you long-term. Then cut her off for good. Block her number, block her social media, and avoid all contact for at least 3 months. Then suffer. Don’t try to replace her. It will suck, but you will come out the other side a new and better man.
The longer you continue to have sex with her, the longer you are standing in your own way of finding your Dream Girl.
Low Libido Gf
Subscriber: Hi Med. So long-short story. First sorry for my poor english writing skills. I have a girlfriend and we are together for 2 years. Our sexual relation was never really good, for some bad experience from me (I was virgin) I develop some ED with her because I was anxious and nervous when was the time for the deal. We still had sex sometimes, but there was some days that I couldn’t get hard. She was really loyal and still sticked with me until I solved the problem (was about 6 months, yeah pretty bad). Now I can get hard and we had already had good sex, but over this months I think she lost her sex drive. Most times she is not in the mood to fuck, so we have low ammount of sex, about 3/4 times in a month. She says she is not confortable to fuck because of her body and not because of me. But in reality I think I am the problem she dont want to have sex. I try not to pressure but its hard, cause I am always in the mood. What can I do to reactivate her sex drive again, how can I have the spark again, but most importantly, how can she look to me again with sexual desire and not just a castrate boyfriend marriage style? Thank you
Med Gold: It’s normal to think you’re the problem but given she said it’s because she feels insecure about her body, which is even more normal, then I’m leaning towards that being the reason. It could be a mix of both.
There’s only so much I can suggest without knowing if there’s a hormonal issue at play. She could have excess estrogen which will reduce her libido. Also unsure if she’s on any psychiatric meds. It’s worth seeing a naturopath or getting blood work done to see if there’s a chemical issue and investigating from there.
With regard to the spark, it’s important to know whether you’re trying to have sex with her while just watching movies at home or if it’s after doing something fun together. I suggest taking her out to dinner, having drinks, and having a fun night together. If she’s still not interested after that, let me know.
Avoiding Temptations to Cheat
Subscriber: Hey Med. Big fan of your content and writing style. Your perspective is much needed in this low test society we live in. I have a question regarding how to deal with interest from other women while in a relationship. For context, I’m 27 and have been dating my gf for 6 years. Our relationship is great and she’s incredible: beautiful, thin, feminine, elegant, caring… I’m very attracted to her and we have great chemistry. I’m quite certain I’m gonna marry her. The thing is that, as I develop myself and become more unapologetic, jacked and well-off financially, more hot girls from my social circle, work, etc seem to be attracted to me. I genuinely love my girlfriend, but this increased attention from beautiful women is making me horny.
So my question is: as a straight dude that is unashamedly attracted to hot women, how to reconcile being in a serious relationship with an amazing girl with having other beautiful women being into you?
Med Gold: This is going to be a problem for the rest of your life. It isn’t going to be easy, but you need to accept that this is a feature of life for men who attract women easily rather than a bug. It’s completely normal to be tempted, so you should allow yourself to feel the attraction and enjoy the ego boost, but briefly. What you do is more important, which means not to acting on it. Fighting or suppressing the feeling is futile. Redirect that energy towards your girlfriend. As long as you two are communicating well, remain attractive to each other and all other factors are in order — the sex will get better and better over time. The temptation will never go away, but it will be less distracting.
Understanding The Foot Fetish
J.: Hi Med! Care to explain the appeal of women’s feet from a male perspective? Not in the porn sick reddit way but from a healthy point of view. As a woman I can recognize the aesthetic differences between differently shaped feet -aside from hygiene it seems to come down to genetics. There is something intimate about a bare foot, and feet are the baseline for graceful movement (or lack thereof). I don’t understand them as an element of beauty from a male point of view, though.
Med Gold: I’ve posted about this before. I don’t understand it either because my brain works properly. I have the same opinion as you do. I can recognize a pair of cute feet vs. ugly feet but feet have never turned me on sexually even slightly.
Should Women Lovebomb Men?
Subscriber: Hey Med! Im truly amazed by every take of urs💗 Thank u for sharing ur knowledge, i want to know if it is true that a girl can show that shes obsessed with a guy, being consistently loveydovey (assuming shes somewhat attractive) and win him over that way! Because i saw someone say so on X.. im also wondering why some men reject women if shes fine, but he could still have some fun with her.. how are they so not tempted.. (asking for a friend;;)))))
Med Gold: Every man is different in how they respond to direct female attention and I believe it comes down to confidence. If a man is confident then he will welcome it because he agrees he’s worthy of praise. If he’s insecure then he will shoo it away because he doesn’t understand why he’s being praised in the first place. That being said, you don’t want to go overboard to the point where you come across as needy. But I think in general this does work on men who allow their egos to be inflated.
Should Underfucked Women be Institutionalized?
Subscriber: I am a 6 who knows I’m a 6 because I can only get soft men to commit it me and so I am chronically poorly fucked. Sad lol.
I think being fucked badly exacerbates and certainly doesn’t help whatever mental health issues and retardation come along with just being a woman. I’m not a feminist at all, but I do understand why so many mid women become feminists and don’t like men: because they can only pull men who fuck badly and are repeatedly used and abandoned by men who do fuck well but are out of their league.
My silly woman fantasy solution to this mid-female tragi-comedy is formal, legal concubinage, in so far as I think this at least would increase fertility rates and do so eugenically, as well as minimizing female insanity. I understand how beautiful women who can pull sexy men would not like to share their husbands and that the unsexed men in this scenario won’t be happy either, but those men are not happy as it is, and we have a bunch of feminists destroying our culture and civilization and I just think someone ought to do something about them.
Forcing them back into monogamous marriage arrangements won’t work I don’t think because women are possessed by demons that force them to mate as eugenically as possible and I think that’s largely the reason feminism became so popular in the first place. Mid women will always find some way to be concubines rather than bear even more mid-ly offspring.
What do you think we (you high agency men, I mean) should we do with all the undersexed mids? They are a menace to society and become really very seriously mentally disturbed when chronically badly fucked and/or unhusbanded.
Med: First off, you are correct that women who are poorly fucked become just as (if not more) insane as women who are underfucked. I assume it’s like ordering a juicy burger but the waiter hands you a dry salad. But I wouldn’t blame yourself being mid for that — there’s plenty of guys who can pull hot girls who also suck at sex, nut quickly, or can’t even get hard. There’s things you can do to filter out guys who are bad at sex by “scaring the bros.” Happy to offer suggestions.
In terms of what to do with these women, I posted about this yesterday. The woman locked up her account, but she was bragging about how she got carjacked in Chicago but still doesn’t want Trump to send in the National Guard to reduce crime. Insane behavior.
There should be some kind of a mandatory mental illness test for women who show signs of psychotic behavior. I’m not going to say this should apply to all married women, because there’s plenty of married women who act like this because they married weak men who can’t tame them. I also don’t think women should have to report to the state how often they have sex. But I do believe communists should be monitored as closely as terrorists. If a woman starts to advocate for total destruction of her country, she should be considered unfit for society and detained in a mental institution. The DSM should diagnose “underfucked” as a serious mental illness. We shouldn’t have to live with these people.
Why Lesbians Aren’t Real
Subscriber: Also can you expand on “lesbians aren’t real”?
Med Gold: Every cell in a woman’s body is optimizing towards attracting one man who will protect them, provide for them, and impregnate them. Their entire hormonal and reproductive system is designed for being impregnated by a man. There are women who are more masculine than average. Sexy women are sexy to both sexes. But lesbians aren’t real.
Total COVID Revenge
Subscriber: In a post you made on X you said that the next administration should hold Nuremberg trials for Covid. I agree completely. In an ideal world, who do you think the next administration should be made up of or who in politics right now would be most likely to carry something like that out?
Med Gold: Stephen Miller or Pete Hegseth. I don’t think JD Vance has the guts and Trump is too much of a Boomer to admit how badly he fucked up during COVID. RFK Jr. seems hellbent on wanting to destroy Fauci but he isn’t right wing enough to beat whoever Trump passes the torch to.
Relationship Topics That Should Be Discussed More
Subscriber: glad you are back. You’ve given a lot of wonderful and actionable advice, and answered a lot of our questions. But what is something in regards to relationships and women, that you are surprised or are concerned that is not discussed enough?
Med Gold: What gets discussed is a reflection of what the masses want to hear, which is why the timeline is mostly slop. More advanced topics, like the intricacies of relationships that are doing well, or the more advanced dynamics of sex and romance itself, would be more interesting to see. Whether or not people are talking about them is hard to know because the majority of people aren’t in relationships or aren’t having sex and either have nothing to contribute or don’t want to think about those things at all.
Social Anxiety
Subscriber: Hey Med, I'm a 27 year old male who had a classic zoomer childhood of being raised by the internet and video games, thinking I was an "introvert" and "autistic" and so on. Because I was never into parties and stuff in high school, my whole life I've dealt with an anxiety that I'm weird and that "normal" women won't be interested in me. This is despite plenty of people in my life telling me I'm charismatic and good-looking, having a pretty easy time making friends, and actually having been approached by several women in the past. When something like being approached happens or when I get huge signals from a girl, an immediate mental block pops up that she'll eventually realize I'm weird and I end up self-sabotaging. The girlfriends I've had have (sometimes literally) thrown themselves at me and it ends up limiting my dating pool.
My question is how do I kick this feeling of not being a "normie," so to speak? I'd love to make the most of the romantic opportunities I'm presented and meet wonderful women, but no matter how much I tell myself this feeling is irrational, it always torpedoes the chances I get. Thank you for your work and sorry for the long-winded question.
Med Gold: Don’t apologize. I don’t mind answering long questions as long as all the details are necessary to the question.
It never hurts to LARP as Gigachad. It isn’t a sustainable mode of being, but it’s useful in the short-term.
Everyone has a voice inside of them that tells them they suck for X or Y reason. A terminal conviction that you aren’t good, and yes, as cheesy as it sounds — unworthy of being loved. This likely traces back to childhood, and each person’s reason and voice sounds different. But everyone has it to some extent.
That voice can be quieted by literally talking to it. Telling it “not right now” or “pipe down” to yourself. It will become quieter over time. You might have to tell it this 10 trillion times.
But it’s also worth understanding the exact X or Y that makes you insecure and comparing it against reality to understand if X or Y is actually true or if it’s just the voice. If it is true, can you fix it? If it isn’t false, then it’s just that part of you trying to sabotage you, which really means it’s trying to prevent you from getting hurt. Self-sabotage is a non-obvious defense mechanism.
Subscriber: any tips/advice on social skills in public? specifically looking at people in a public setting, making eye contact, and approaching them. i really liked your "how to start a conversation with anyone and not be weird - an introduction for introverts" essay. i'm not sure why it's removed from your page. but if you could bring it back/post something similar, that'd be great. i applied the things you talked about in that essay (listening closely to people talk about themselves, striking up a conversation about what they're doing/wearing, etc.), and found it very helpful in having better talks with people. but the talking process is more like a step 2, whereas step 1 is approaching them. my problem is that i unconsciously avoid looking at people. think walking outside, getting uncomfortable when you do look at someone walking towards you/passing by. think at gym, staring at your weights or phone and "scared" to look at other people working out. so yeah it's not great. how do i fix this? maybe you can talk from a more social/psychological perspective. thanks, and love you med
Med Gold: Step 2 is a matter of getting out of your head and more in the moment. Being aware of that voice in your head that makes you self-conscious or afraid of people looking at you goes a long way. That means literally telling yourself (similar to my answer above), “Okay, I feel anxious right now.” That separates you from the anxiety and breaks it up a bit. That’s the first step.
After that it’s a matter of confronting the anxiety head-on. What exactly are you worried will happen? What exactly are you worried they see? Is it real? Or does it not matter at all? Caring less goes a long way here but that takes practice and real examination. “Okay, this asshole is looking at me. Who are they? Who cares? So what?” I know it sounds easier said than done, but it’s worth spending time on.
I will post something about this again in the future. During my last internet detox I found myself posting for the sake of staying “on schedule” and it wasn’t coming form the heart, so I’ve removed those for now. Good reminder though. Let me know if this helps, happy to respond again in the next session.
Subscriber: Hi Med, I'm a 24 year old (naturally quite introverted) and I'm trying to wean myself off being entirely reliant on dating apps to meet women. I'm putting myself in more situations where I'll meet girls: going out for coffee more and doing more social hobbies, etc. My main sticking point is not knowing what to say to break the ice without coming across creepy. I seem to manage ok in bars and clubs because the environment is more suited to cold approaches (and the alcohol takes the edge off), but in day-to-day life I find myself pussying out, often not knowing what to say. Can you offer any advice on openers and approaching in general? Also, somewhat related - do you have an opinion on coffee vs drinks for first dates. I've personally found girls respect you more on drinks dates and it generally feels more masculine. Thanks
Med Gold: Approaching out in the wild without coming off creepy is very context-dependent as you stated. It’s best to find something happening in that moment that you can bring up. For example, if you’re both waiting for your coffee and you’ve both been waiting a while. Or if you’re both outside and it suddenly got really hot out of nowhere. Whatever. It’s an ice-breaker and is more subtle than just asking for her number. However, if there’s absolutely nothing to bring up and you’ll regret not talking to her, just tell her you don’t mean to bother her but you think she’s beautiful and ask for her number. Girls very rarely respond poorly to this and worst comes to worst she says she has a boyfriend or just says no. It stings for a bit but we take our L’s in stride.
I strongly recommend drinks on the first date. Everything else comes across poor or trying to pretend like you don’t want to have sex with them. Snake-like behavior. Coffee dates are less fun anyway.
Ghosting
Subscriber: Hi Med; there’s a girl at my gym who I see there often and frequently catch looking at me. Maybe it’s in my head but when we walk past each other and make eye contact there’s a fair amount of tension like she’s holding her breath for me to talk to her. This began at the start of the summer and it’s been about two months of this a couple times a week. I’ve never talked to her. She’s not bad looking but she looks a lot like a downgraded version of a girl I used to talk to and it would feel a bit weird. Nonetheless I’ve been starting to consider making a move. The question is, is it more hurtful to a girl who likes you to ignore her or to show her a good time without having any real intention of a relationship. My gut feeling is that it’d be more awkward to smash and then reject her than to let her wonder why I ignore the openings to flirt. Thanks for your input.
Med Gold: Your gut feeling is correct. Ghosting a girl especially after sex is particularly damaging to their psyche and guilt isn’t a fun thing to carry around. It will catch up with you in due time. Avoiding these situations especially when you can foresee them coming is very wise.
Texting After 1st Date Sex
Subscriber: Hi Med, you wrote a nice text about the top mistakes made on dating apps. I’m 22, and like most guys in my generation, I use online dating apps, which actually work pretty well for me. I check most of the boxes and have some Mediterranean blood in me, which seems to drive the girls wild (and to undress themselves pretty fast haha).
Although the first date usually goes really well, I often fuck it up afterwards, especially with the girls I’m really interested in. Sounds a bit gay, but if the first date has a lot of (sexual) energy and intensity, I struggle to maintain that vibe in the time between the first and second (or third) date (takes usually around a week). I don’t want to be that guy constantly asking how her day was, but at the same time, if I don’t keep up some kind of connection, the energy just vanishes. When that happens, it often fizzles out and she loses interest. Maybe I’m sometimes giving too much attention, or maybe not enough, I’m not sure. Idk if you can relate, but I’d appreciate any insights on how you approach the time after the first date (especially when you already had sex).
Med Gold: Unless it was abundantly clear it was a one-time thing, I don’t wait more than 24 hours to text her first. She’s waiting for that and if you don’t then she’ll think you’re a dick. After that I let the conversation unfold naturally and don’t really think about it. If I want to talk to her then I do, if I don’t then I don’t. If there’s something that was particularly hot from the first date, tell her you’re thinking about it. Girls are usually wondering if the sex was good for you. But if you’re feeling anxious about texting them too much, pull back. If you’re worried you’re not texting them enough, talk with her about something interesting. “How was your day” isn’t really a question. “What are you up” is a good way to open up a conversation because it’s more in-the-moment and there’s an actual answer to give. Then you can let it unfold from there.
Setting Boundaries with Insecure Girls
Subscriber: Hey med, How do you set boundaries with hot girls? I’m 21 and have been dating this girl at uni. She’s really hot, but there’s a caveat: every time I don’t hang out with her or her friend group, she gets absolutely cold, almost to the point of ghosting me. To get things back to normal, I have to people-please her and sort of reinforce her by asking You okay? What happened? Etc. Etc. I really don’t like it; it makes me feel nauseous and needy, which is really out of character for me. Usually, I’m really good at setting boundaries or handling uncomfortable feelings/situations with other girls I’ve dated, but with this one, I feel pressured not to mess things up. I don’t want to seem needy or check on her all the time. It’s just been difficult to handle my inner dynamics, like not handling her being upset at me or constantly thinking I’m going to blow it. My overall life is really good: I work out, eat right, sleep, go out with friends, talk to other girls, read, work, etc. But she really gets me, and my attention just dwindles. Thanks med
Med Gold: Next time, don’t reach out at all. If she’s interested then she will reach out to you first. I’m not a fan of playing games. If a girl is upset, she needs to make it really obvious or tell me in order for me to ask “What’s wrong?”, especially in the beginning stages.
Without communication, the relationship is cooked, so it’s better to set those boundaries from the beginning. This doesn’t mean “don’t speak unless spoken to” but it does mean you’re telling her that you’re not going to wait on her every emotion to be pleasant for you to continue to go on with your life.
It’s also important to have a “take it or leave it” attitude, as long as you’re being reasonable. If you didn’t do anything wrong, don’t apologize. If you did, then you should, but only once. And then it’s up to her if she wants to stick around. If she doesn’t, she doesn’t - you’ll be fine.
It sounds like you do want things to work with her. If she actually communicates that she’s mad that you aren’t hanging out with her all the time, you can be clear. “Look, I’m very into you. I want us to keep seeing each other. But there’s going to be times where I see my friends and you see your friends, and that’s okay. I don’t want this to be an issue between us.”
Condoms vs. Pulling Out
Subscriber: Med—wearing a condom is killing my sex life with my gf. She went off BC a year ago after we noticed it was fucking with her personality (demonic pill) and it's been back to condoms since. Naturally she's pretty scared of getting pregnant (we're 22 and about to graduate) so I've had to wrap. i hate it and it makes me want to have sex significantly less which in turn affects our relationship. Am I being a pussy? Is everyone else just pulling out and hoping for the best? Curious to hear your thoughts
Med Gold: Have you brought up pulling out with her? This is worth talking about. I don’t tell people to pull out unless they’re good at it because getting an abortion is devastating, as is an unwanted pregnancy. The Plan B pill also causes problems. So I would first be confident you’re able to pull out. This skill is usually built through practice but in your case, edging is a good way to do that. You can also tell her to give you head and practice stopping right before you’re about to nut, etc. Showing her you can do this may give her the confidence she needs to feel safe without a condom. But I’m getting off topic. Either way, I would tell her that sex has become less enjoyable for you since wearing a condom, you’re happy she’s no longer on the pill and committed to being with her, and you want to solve this problem together without taking too big of a risk. Luckily this is a solvable problem.
Age Gap Relationships
Subscriber: My question is about a topic I’ve seen you mention many times: age gaps. I’m 37 now and just getting back into the dating scene after a hiatus to upgrade my life and recover from the end of a very difficult relationship. I got together with her before the pandemic and we were together for three years before I was forced to end it. I took some time off to process and level up, which is how I found you - thank you! Now that I’m getting back out there, I feel like the world changed seismically since I last dated. At this point, I’d like to find a woman that is feminine and not jaded (we have the same taste it seems - thin arms ftw) but I feel like all I see are whore 7’s that think they’re 10’s and 34 year old women that want to use me as a sperm donor for the kids they waited too long to have. So, my thought is, in the rare instances that I see one, go for a 24/25 year old in the wild that doesn’t seem poisoned by feminism and fuckboys yet, or move to another country and try to meet a more traditional woman there. I know your thoughts on passport bros but I can’t help but think that getting away from feminist social media culture would improve my prospects. But now, despite the fact that I’m the best I’ve ever been, I feel a little weird about going for younger women. The thought of them being grossed out and thinking of me as an “old guy” makes me cringe. The red pill universe says that I should be peaking in attractiveness right now as a man, and I definitely feel that way, but some recent stuff I’ve seen on X has me second guessing that big time. Could you weigh in on the situation? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Note - I live in DC, which I think is a major part of the problem. It’s ground zero for the straight-A student, hyper liberal, combative women that we’re all too familiar with. Also for context, I’ve been called very good looking my entire life by women - I’m 5’11, lean 210 lbs, and have a fun personality and solid fundamentals in all the major areas of life. So I think it really would just be the age thing that might torpedo my efforts, but I’d love to know your thoughts. Thanks!
Med Gold: There’s something to be said about all of the takes you listed on the question. It comes down to seeing it through. Dating a girl in her 30’s who’s just using you to have a baby isn’t ideal. Neither is moving to another country to find someone, it’s a huge risk and cultural differences can cause unforeseen problems.
37 isn’t 47, you’re still in your 30’s. You’re in good shape, are experienced, and I’m not sensing any serious flaws. I wouldn’t think too much about it.
There’s going to be younger girls that are easy to relate to because they’re more mature for their age and some who are so vapid and TikTok-addicted that they’re not even worth having a conversation with. I tend to find zoomers are a 50/50 split between highly impressive or extremely useless.
Living in DC is indeed going to limit your options. I’m not saying you should pack up and move to a new city, but spending time in different cities and using the apps will give you a better sense of how the people are and whether it’s worth it. I wouldn’t necessarily just limit the age range to 20’s either, there’s plenty of girls in their 30’s who are hot, worth dating, and aren’t just looking for a guy to clean up their bad decisions of the past. I’d keep pursuing, check out new areas, and remain open.
Anecdotal Questions
Subscriber: Hello Med, I'm 19, and on my 2nd LTR, I tend towards only dating women who I an wholly confident in fostering this sort of thing with. I am currently 6 months into dating a girl which I resonate with on every level, and things are doing well despite her psychotic mother. But my ex recently came back to haunt my subconcious for some reason. I had dated the first girl for around 4 years and it got quite rocky towards the end, but we still wanted to end it off as friends, so we did. I simped for a while but eventually let off and started dating this new girl. There was always the feeling in the back of my head that I was somehow dating the same girl, they are both very artsy, one is a cosplayer, the other is a furry, they both have an incredibly similar appearance and tone, but overall I'd say my current girl is a direct upgrade. I'm just surprised that I'm receiving dreams about the last girl again after so long.
Med Gold: I’m not sure what the question is to be honest but I assume you’re asking if it’s normal to think about exes when things are going rocky with your current girlfriend. Yes, this is normal. Marrying into a psychotic family, or having a psychotic mother-in-law is definitely something that may make you reconsider and it’s valid. I suggest making sure there’s boundaries in place to prevent her mother from playing too much of your role in your relationship, or she will destroy it.
Subscriber: Hey Med, This is a follow up to a question from the last episode, How do you balance total fuck and not taking life too seriously? In 2022 you released an excellent podcast with y0ckeyslut I believe. I've searched for the episode and not sure it exists anymore. It's the one where you have Dasha chained up to your radiator at your apartment. In this episode y0ckey describes TOTAL FUCK as follows:
"Sex is not the same thing as TOTAL FUCK. It’s total. It’s not simply fucking the woman, it’s fucking the entire world. Total fuck is you fuck everything that moves. You don’t just mean women, you mean every person, you mean every moving part in society. You fuck nature. You fuck the society. You're fucking civilization. You bend everything to your will. You make the world coo, because you’re that powerful. That’s what you should aspire to. And during total fuck you forget that you even exist, like you are in another place."
What a description! I've felt that way before but at times I take myself and life too seriously and believe there's a balance to it. I mean look at DJT, he is in a world of TOTAL FUCK. And he's sarcastic, comedic, not taking himself too seriously, yet he's destroying his opponents. I think there's a connection between the two and want to hear you thought on balancing them. Thanks!
Med Gold: That episode was actually with a different poster, but I remember when he said that. I don’t really think about it that deeply to be honest. I don’ t have a great answer and don’t want to make up an answer for the sake of giving an answer.
Subscriber: Hey Med. Would be great if you could include timestamps on medcast. Would save lots of time finding the topics that interest most.
Med Gold: I get it. I know timestamps are ideal. I’ve tried adding them in the past but it’s annoying to pause the recording as I’m answering questions then jotting down the time. I know there’s AI solutions but writing the AMA should help with this.
Subscriber: What are your thoughts on the Burnerverse?
Med Gold: I don’t know what this is exactly. I looked it up and it sounds like it’s just about anonymous posters? Let me know.
Subscriber: Hey med not a question here but just a thanks to you. A while back you were writing about real genuine desire and had a post with a clip from the god father and said “this or it’s not real” with Al Pacino staring at his future Italian bride. This post haunted me for weeks because I knew I wasn’t truly in love with my girlfriend. Took a little while but broke up with her a couple weeks ago. Honestly it was probably the best thing to do for her. Didn’t want to waste anymore of her time. Stared down the barrel of settling in a relationship that was just “fine” and refused to pull the trigger. I’ll never put myself in that position again. Thanks med
Med Gold: I’m very happy to hear that. Thank you for sending this.
To your reader who complained about using condoms with his girlfriend, he should consider using lambskin condoms. They’re pretty damn close to wearing nothing.
Unlike rubber, lambskin conducts heat and electricity, which are big parts of what make sex so intimate. They're a good bit more expensive than latex condoms but worth every penny, IMO.