Why Most Men Are Boring

On The Gaming-Porn-Sports Complex

Most men bore me to death. I find them to be, as Trump poignantly described Jeb Bush, “low energy.” Most men are just…kind of there. They have little to no presence.

Women can bore me too — most people are boring. But I don’t find women to be nearly as distracted as men. Women, in general, are more present, and therefore more interesting to talk to.

I ask myself if I’m the strange one. Then I remember I don’t watch porn, play video games, or watch sports. I don’t play with things that make men check out of life.

How can you possibly be interesting while these things are on your mind?

Girls claim they can smell when a guy recently jerked off. There’s something to this. Consumption expends your energy. Escapism castrates your libido.

It’s good to blow off steam, but these ubiquitous addictions are making men boring. Avoid them and you will stand out. If you can’t remember the last time you met someone who was cool — let’s continue.

The Risk of Escapism

If you don’t see any prospects in your future, it makes sense to check out. Regardless, avoiding reality compounds the problems you’re avoiding. Ask anyone who moved to another country to “find themselves.”

Why quit the job you hate when you can watch Tucker Carlson talk about demons?

Why tell your girlfriend you’re not going the baby shower when you can watch “the game”?

Why get rejected when you can jerk off to porn?

It makes sense to avoid a difficult reality to experience fake reality.

Cleaning up your resume is tedious. Starting a business is risky. Dealing with your girlfriend bitching because you said men don’t belong at baby showers is annoying. Asking a girl out and getting rejected is (temporarily) embarrassing.

There’s no guarantee you’ll get what you want for stepping into the unknown, but at least you created the possibility. There is a guarantee you’ll get absolutely nothing if you keep your life the way it is. Avoiding pain isn’t a reward.

Blowing Off Steam vs. Checking Out

I’m not suggesting men should never do any of these things. Sometimes you have a shitty day and you want to turn your brain off to recharge.

But the guy who jerks off every few weeks when he needs to clear out the cobwebs and the guy who jerks off daily are very different guys.

The guy who likes to play poker with his friends every few weeks and the guy who blows his life savings on sports gambling are very different guys.

The guy who plays video games after work for an hour and the guy who games until 3 in the morning every night are very different guys.

There’s a difference between blowing off steam and escapism. That difference is balance. The first guy is living his life, the second guy is avoiding it.

Why Presence Matters

There’s nothing worse than talking to someone and you can tell their mind is elsewhere. They aren’t present, and therefore they aren’t curious. The conversation is dead on arrival.

When you’re talking to someone who isn’t distracted, they’re at least there with you. When your mind is clear, your mind is open. You can ask people questions and genuinely get to know them. That doesn’t guarantee you’re going to connect, but now the door is open.

When you’re distracted, the possibility of connecting with anyone, whether it’s while trying to make new friends or going on dates, is impossible.

A man who deals with his life and makes the hard changes to improve it is more interesting — and less boring. Cool is just another way to describe someone who lives life on their own terms.