Get Over Your Fear of Rejection by Getting Rejected

You aren’t free until you stop caring.

Approaching women in person is always nerve-wracking. It’s petrifying to men who haven’t done it before. Men still get butterflies even if they’ve done it successfully hundreds of times. Nobody wants to feel rejected.

A wise man once told me: "Walk up to every girl you're attracted to and just start talking to her." I did that for an entire summer. It was the best advice I ever received. More on that later.

Talking to women shouldn’t be a “numbers game.” That’s a concept for men who will have sex with anything. These men don’t respect themselves. They’re sloppy and have poor taste.

If you only approach girls you find intoxicatingly hot, then it’s not a numbers game. Lowering your standards is bad for your soul. Swing for the fences.

“But Med — she’s out of my league! Who am I to walk up to a 10?”

Do you hear yourself? You’re already admitting defeat.

If you get rejected — who cares? Now you have experience in getting rejected by a 10. Approaching a 9 will be less scary.

The hardest part is getting past the point when you’re nervously checking her out and racking your brain for an excuse to talk to her.

“What should I say? Should I use a pick-up line?”

One-liners aren’t my style. They’re inauthentic.

Either way, it doesn’t necessarily matter what you say.

And no — I’m not going to tell you what to say. It’s on you to figure that out. That’s the only way you’re going to develop your own style.

That’s how I figured it out.

All that matters is that you just do it.

Here’s what I learned that summer.