The Biggest Mistakes Made on Dating Apps

Principles for men & women using male-brained technology

How one feels about dating apps is entirely dependent on their experience with them. My opinion is unpopular because it isn’t bitter. I think dating apps are good. People should use them more. They certainly aren’t “destroying society.” Most people just aren’t good at them. Dating apps are how people meet now whether you like this fact or not, so it’s better to be good at them. Very few people are shit out of luck on dating apps.

Dating apps are designed around the male brain. Men select for physical attractiveness first and foremost. Girls select for multiple traits and physical attractiveness is not #1. Men worry far too much about their appearance, as I covered in Stop Looksmaxxing.

It’s impossible for girls to accurately select for character, charisma, and status on dating apps. They’re mostly trying to feel out if the man is broke, creepy, or boring with each swipe. This guess work is done based on the vibe men put out online. “Account physiognomy” is real. Physical attractiveness is a factor, but you need to be irregularly unattractive to scare someone away at first glance. Men are trying to avoid being swiped left and being left on read.

Attractive girls don’t need tips for finding dates on apps. They can go on as many dates as they have time for, never pay for drinks again, and have sex multiple times a day if they really wanted to. The overwhelming majority of girls are not like that, despite what you’re told on cucktainment shows like the Whatever podcast. Most girls are looking for a husband and will have sex on the first date if the chemistry is there. Women have a different problem — they’re trying to avoid being ghosted and going on dates with douchebags.

There are no guarantees in dating and relationships. This is not a “How To” guide. There isn’t a secret formula, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. You’re walking into the unknown and rolling the dice. Chemistry is outside of our control, but there’s principals to apply, and mistakes to avoid, that will increase the likelihood of success for both sexes on dating apps. Allow me to expand.