I think this is your best writing so far. It is so dangerous to allow yourself to love, but the payoff can be truly spectacular. When you commit yourself to her and make the conscious decision that you’re willing to do all of the things you’ve outlined here, you become something more, and if you are lucky enough to find someone worthy of that, the two of you can become a transcendent force. I am one of the lucky souls who has found such a love. One night I was talking to another couple and encouraging them to go deeper with each other and I had a moment of clarity about myself that has changed the way I think about love forever. I realized that there is a tremendous power to be found in consciously and repeatedly committing to someone completely. No hedging, no thinking in the back of your mind that you could find someone else if she doesn’t work out. Being the kind of person that can make such a commitment is the crowning achievement of my life, and I am quite successful otherwise. After that moment when you look yourself in the eye and know that there is nothing that could make you waver, that you have allowed yourself to love and truly commit, you’ll never look at yourself the same way again. This piece reminds me of that moment so much because it’s all of those little things that add up to that commitment and that realization has driven me from that moment forward.
I read every day so many men who miss this because of so many different reasons, mostly because they have been manipulated or used and have allowed themselves to see things far too transactionally. Men who have only ever dated and never been in a committed LTR should not be giving relationship advice suggesting that you next someone when it gets hard. Keep doing that and you’ll find yourself nexting someone who could have been your person and end up alone. I think that most men who are truly in touch with themselves can recognize when a woman comes along that they would do all of these things and feel all of these feelings for. But that’s a small minority among a lot of guys who are clueless and take advice from equally clueless self help gurus who have never actually made it there with anyone.
I think this is your best writing so far. It is so dangerous to allow yourself to love, but the payoff can be truly spectacular. When you commit yourself to her and make the conscious decision that you’re willing to do all of the things you’ve outlined here, you become something more, and if you are lucky enough to find someone worthy of that, the two of you can become a transcendent force. I am one of the lucky souls who has found such a love. One night I was talking to another couple and encouraging them to go deeper with each other and I had a moment of clarity about myself that has changed the way I think about love forever. I realized that there is a tremendous power to be found in consciously and repeatedly committing to someone completely. No hedging, no thinking in the back of your mind that you could find someone else if she doesn’t work out. Being the kind of person that can make such a commitment is the crowning achievement of my life, and I am quite successful otherwise. After that moment when you look yourself in the eye and know that there is nothing that could make you waver, that you have allowed yourself to love and truly commit, you’ll never look at yourself the same way again. This piece reminds me of that moment so much because it’s all of those little things that add up to that commitment and that realization has driven me from that moment forward.
I read every day so many men who miss this because of so many different reasons, mostly because they have been manipulated or used and have allowed themselves to see things far too transactionally. Men who have only ever dated and never been in a committed LTR should not be giving relationship advice suggesting that you next someone when it gets hard. Keep doing that and you’ll find yourself nexting someone who could have been your person and end up alone. I think that most men who are truly in touch with themselves can recognize when a woman comes along that they would do all of these things and feel all of these feelings for. But that’s a small minority among a lot of guys who are clueless and take advice from equally clueless self help gurus who have never actually made it there with anyone.
truly a masterpiece
Still great! Just re-read it. Amazing!