The Myth of Enthusiastic Sex
Women do not need to be “good in bed”
If a man believes women need to be “good in bed” then he is exposing himself as a radical male feminist. This belief implies women hold equal power and are responsible for the man’s sexual experience. It’s an admission that men are to be used as skin dildos for women to ride for their pleasure, while men just sit there to be drained by them. It’s an incredibly submissive position, revealing lack of sexual prowess and zero understanding of female nature. If a man actually wants the girl he’s having sex with, then he knows that all she needs to do is look hot and lay down.
If I try to empathize with someone who believes women need to be “good in bed” — I imagine them thinking of a woman screaming, biting, and scratching during sex as being synonymous with sex itself. This is normal given that’s what most men expect or want during sex. However, expecting and wanting are two completely states of being.
With regard to a woman’s pleasure during sex, a man’s state falls into three categories: indifference, expecting, and wanting. In this post I will explore all three states, and the misunderstanding of pleasure.
Indifference
If a man is indifferent about how a woman feels during sex then it’s pretty straightforward: sex feels better than jerking off, so he would prefer to have sex. He has sex, he cums, then he falls asleep — that’s pretty much the whole story.
During this state of indifference, men just want a body to cum in and to pat themselves on the back for having sex rather than not. Sex is a means to an end. Mutual pleasure is of little to no concern.
This mode of being isn’t just selfish, but it’s also very stupid. Why wouldn’t a man want to see a woman go sexually insane? Few things feel better than seeing a girl experience higher and higher states of pleasure because of you. From the man’s perspective — it isn’t just a real ego flex, it’s extremely erotic. There’s few things more visually and sexually stimulating than seeing a girl’s eyes roll to the back of her head while you’re both completely lost in the moment.
This indifference doesn’t come from selfishness. It boils down to laziness, stemming from a lack of confidence in his sexual abilities due to lack of sexual experience or mastery over his ability to last long.
The harsh reality is if he could make a girl feel extreme heights of pleasure, he would.
Sex without caring about the other person’s pleasure is just premium masturbation.
