If a man believes women need to be “good in bed” then he is exposing himself as a radical male feminist. This belief implies women hold equal power and are responsible for the man’s sexual experience. It’s an admission that men are to be used as skin dildos for women to ride for their pleasure, while men just sit there to be drained by them. It’s an incredibly submissive position, revealing lack of sexual prowess and zero understanding of female nature. If a man actually wants the girl he’s having sex with, then he knows that all she needs to do is look hot and lay down.
If I try to empathize with someone who believes women need to be “good in bed” — I imagine them thinking of a woman screaming, biting, and scratching during sex as being synonymous with sex itself. This is normal given that’s what most men expect or want during sex. However, expecting and wanting are two completely states of being.
With regard to a woman’s pleasure during sex, a man’s state falls into three categories: indifference, expecting, and wanting. In this post I will explore all three states, and the misunderstanding of pleasure.
