The Myth of a Hypersexualized Culture
What many see as “degeneracy” is often asexuality masquerading as a fetish.
The below essay was published in the most recent issue of Evie Magazine.
Quite often on X and other platforms, you’ll see people using words like ‘degeneracy’ while complaining about what many believe is an overabundance of sexuality in America. At first glance, these complaints are understandable. I won’t burden you with the image of Lizzo on a Calvin Klein billboard in SoHo that replaced former Calvin Klein billboards with hot models. The rampant use of OnlyFans and the unspoken addiction to porn most men have on some level may also come to mind. If you walk into CVS, you might see anal vibrators or power dildos being sold an isle away from Aspirin and Listerine. It makes sense to come to this conclusion at first glance.
However, these relatively new phenomenons are the complete opposite of “hypersexual.” In fact, they’re anti-sexual. OnlyFans, porn, and sex toys are products used almost always in complete isolation. They’re tools used for coping with the existential pain of being, numbing feelings of lonliness, and replacing the void of chemistry and passion. A quick masturbation session feels better than facing the depth of bottomless depression. I’m going to discuss why these phenomena are not only not hypersexual, but are decreasing sexuality as a whole.
Screens and Power Tools
OnlyFans girls are products sold to men who are in the market for customized nude videos. The customer and the product are physically separated from each other. Even if the product is speaking to the customer directly, she’s doing it through a screen, and he’s paying her to do it. The customer is paying for a cheap replica of sexual intimacy and the product, and oftentimes her pimp, are profiting from it.
Porn is a solo activity. Men typically don’t watch porn with their spouses or friends. Almost always, men watch porn alone, and they do it secretly. Men rarely talk about their porn usage with each other. Similarly to OnlyFans, male masturbation is tricking your dick to think it’s inside of a woman when it isn’t. Yes, he may orgasm after watching porn, but all men know that not all orgasms are the same. An orgasm after masturbating to memories feels different than an orgasm from watching porn, which both pale in comparison to orgasming inside of a woman you’re possessed with lust for who wants you just as much or more. It’s almost an insult to call a masturbation orgasm an orgasm at all. It’s better to call it a biological hack as a temporary escape from boredom and sexual frustration.
