On Vulnerability Management
The case against spilling your guts
In case you don’t know who Bryan Johnson is, he’s the anti-aging guy who’s determined to Not Die. I like Bryan. He’s a freak. We need more freaks. He recently took a heroic dose of shrooms and announced he has a spunky goth girlfriend. Bryan seems to be doing well.
He posted something extremely personal recently that sparked discussion. I’ll be honest, I didn’t read it. I knew where it was going 2 sentences in.
A lot of women found it cute, as they tend to initially. But the men who had a high school girlfriend immediately recognized what was going on.
Most women aren’t going to understand the ‘emotional suplex’ in question. And that’s okay. Gender-specific knowledge is good. That’s the way it should be.
But this post isn’t about Bryan Johnson. It’s a springboard for an important topic.
Vulnerability is tricky. If you reveal too much too soon, you become simpy and off-putting. If you’re too guarded, nobody gets to know you. You become unloveable. Unless you met The One, there’s a fine line people need to tread, especially in the early stages.
