I don’t just like women. I love women.
I’ve had every reason to grow bitter. I’ve been misled, lied to, and betrayed too many times to count. A purely logical person might have walked away from love altogether, deciding the cost of love was much too high. But the heart is not logical. The heights of love can outweigh even the deepest pain. I am, for better or for worse, a romantic.
As best I could, I tried to assess what went wrong in each relationship. I noticed patterns in my own behavior; how I created issues out of nowhere, criticized harshly, or acted controlling out of fear. I noticed my words greatly affect how women responded to me. I stopped calling my exes “crazy.”
Through experience, I realized beneath all differences in personality, women share a common emotional language. Above all — women need to feel safe. They need to feel beautiful. They need to feel sexually and romantically wanted. When these basic needs are met, they become pleasant to be around. I find this very endearing.
Understanding this distinction, while embracing my role as the man, made relationships easier. Similarly, I started to separate my masculinity from my personality. This only deepened my grasp of female instincts.
Masculine and feminine polarity is complimentary. The stronger it is, the more intense the sexual and romantic attraction.
Here are my favorite Twitter posts on this topic from the last six years.
Enjoy 🤍
